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Are You Waiting To Feel Better Before You Meditate?

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You want to meditate, but not today because everything is rubbish.

You got turned down for a job, you’re worried about money and your go-to behaviours for handling this sort of anxiety are in full swing. You want to overeat, blame, booze, imagine nobody cares, watch porn – choose your weapon.  The thought of facing all that anxious, itchy, tension in your meditation session is not appealing.

Make a cup of tea.

It’s never a bad idea. While the kettle boils, notice the pattern on the mug and watch the steam rising in an effortless swirl. Then make yourself this promise:

You can do all the destructive crap you want but only after you sit and meditate for 15 minutes.

For a simple meditation technique try this.

Drink your tea then sit and meditate. It won’t feel easy, you will be aware of all tension and edgy thoughts  – all that stuff that you’re feeling anyway.

But it will help and here’s why…

If you can sit with your experience and watch yourself squirming away from your feelings, you become a bit larger than them. You make a tiny space between you and your rubbish day.

That space holds the key to you making better choices. And reminds you that’s how you want to live.

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I Don’t Have Time To Meditate!

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Cunning ways to stuff meditation into chaotic days…

Are your eyeballs are out on stalks at the thought of another thing to do? Happily there are oodles of ways to squeeze meditation in without making it a big deal.

Maybe try:

  • Meditate for five minutes instead of trawling on IMDB for that obscure film director or scrolling mindlessly through social media.

  • Sit for three minutes in the loo. Generally people don’t want to know what you were up to in there.

  • Plonk yourself on a bench in the park at lunchtime, watch the squirrels for a bit and breathe.

  • Do a quick five minutes sitting in the car before you go into the house. This can be the re-set button you need to stop thinking about work.

  • When you notice you want to punch someone, put your headphones on and listen to your favourite meditation app – lots to choose from here. You can always thump them after.

  • Get up 10 minutes earlier in the morning, yes really. Even if you’re not a morning person this is worth a try. Your brain will be a bit quieter and you will feel smug for the rest of the day.

  • Be realistic. Don’t plan to do an hour if your day is frantic. Five minutes is good.

  • Before you go out to the pub, sit on a chair and try this positive connection meditation. You’ll listen to your friends better and be nicer to the bar staff.

  • If you really don’t have any time to sit, try to pay attention to the present moment as this will at least give your mind a breather. Notice the sound of the plane flying overhead until it disappears or give yourself over to the crunch of your pork scratchings and do it with your full concentration.

Meditation doesn’t have to be formal. Squeezing it in where you can will help you just as much as having a regular routine.

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Six Things Meditation Has Taught Me / Linda Williamson

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By Linda Williamson

I learned how to meditate at school, which was pretty enlightened for a Glaswegian secondary in the early 80s.

Two Buddhist monks came to my religious education class and led a guided meditation. I was fascinated by the monks (so exotic!) but meditation itself wasn’t a cool thing to do. It wasn’t something I told my friends or family about. Meditation was seen as a bit bonkers, religious and eccentric so I kept my mouth shut about it.

My meditation life has not been a straight path. At times I have been totally committed to it, doing week-long retreats, meditating for seven hours a day and seriously considering joining a Buddhist order. And there there have been long periods when I haven’t meditated at all.  But I’ve never lost my connection to it. I’ve been thinking about the the most important stuff I’ve learned from meditation and top of my list are:

1. I am in control of what I pay attention to.

2. I can find anything interesting.

3. I create most of my suffering.

4. Running away from what’s happening doesn’t help.

5. Left to its own devices, my brain is an endless source of bad advice.

6. Meditation re-connects me to how I want to live.

 

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